Trashy’s Gems #2 – Learn from your mistakes

Last week when I came up with the idea for this blog feature, I thought I’d be good at it because I always learn from my mistakes. Wrong, dumbass. Even as the thought crossed my mind, I knew it was going to come back to bite me in the ass. So my gem for this week – stop making the same mistakes.

I promised Bring Back Desire I’d write a Valentine’s story for them. I came up with an easy idea, but writing it was harder than I expected. My story was boring. I didn’t even want to read it. I tried different things to fix it, even making mistakes on purpose, but nothing worked. I literally threw my laptop across the room. It landed on the bed and bounced fortunately. With help from my deviously clever muse and a smart-ass sexy Tweep, I figured out what the problem was. And much to my shame, it was a mistake I’ve made many times. I was avoiding the conflict.

Conflict! I wanted to write a happy couple, but I started with them happy. Happy is boring! That’s why romances end with happily ever after. No one wants to read normal, happy people. They want to read how flawed people got to happy, what problems they struggled to overcome, how they earned that happy ending.

Now that I’m sufficiently humbled—I hope—I can offer this shiny gem to you. If you catch yourself making the same mistake over and over, step back and figure out why or at least smack a sticky note on your forehead so you don’t do it again. I’m afraid of conflict. Not sure why, but now that I know I am, I can beat my fear into submission and make conflict my bitch. Hey—that sounds like a story I’d like to read. ;)

About ameliajamesauthor

Amelia James started reading steamy romance novels in junior high, but her mom took them away from her, so she started daydreaming instead. After she got married, she wrote some of her naughtier daydreams down and sent them to Playgirl magazine. Two of them got published. She kept daydreaming and writing stories until her dirty stories turned into trashy books. She lives in Colorado, but she’ll always be a loyal Wisconsin Cheesehead. When she’s not lusting after her next bad boy hero, she looks for inspiration in sci-fi and action movies, football players, bloodsucking lawyers, muscle cars, and kick-butt chicks.
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3 Responses to Trashy’s Gems #2 – Learn from your mistakes

  1. I love this article. It’s so true. I am now following you via email.

  2. NatashaReyna says:

    You did WHAT?!….nearly gave me a heart attack…Glad your laptop was spared…I think I need to look at my past books and learn from my mistakes like this as well, cause I’ve hit the wall of Writer’s Block again…I see so much in my head, but every time I try to put out my WIP into novella format, it falls flat. My execution is flawed, just need to know why and how to fix it. And it is erotica–my first serious one…

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