D/s: Who’s in charge?


I’ve been so consumed writing Their Twisted Love that I haven’t had much time to blog. So here’s a little peek at what I’m researching for it. This blog has a lot of great information about the D/s lifestyle and this particular post addresses who’s in charge. It’s not who you think.

I also found this little gem from another post: “My dominance is part of my core, and my dominance is what completes me. The “why’s” at the beginning of this post are not really the question. The real question is “Why Not?” ”

Indeed. ;)

Originally posted on Joseph McNamara:

I have always thought that the role we assume in a D/s relationship are not only unique, but a bit misunderstood. Having lived in this type of  relationship for many years as the Dominant, I thought I’d share my thought on this.

When you think of it, a Dominant cannot really express that dominance without a willing partner. The partner coming into the relationship, assumes the position so to speak, but first has to say yes I do indeed want this.  Without that “yes”, the dominant becomes a molester of sorts and really has no right to abuse the other.

In my long term relationship and marriage into this lifestyle, there was always playful taking on my part, and equally there was playful suggestion and giving from my partner. But we were always in communication with each other’s needs and wants throughout the time we shared. I loved the surprise…

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About ameliajamesauthor

Amelia James started reading steamy romance novels in junior high, but her mom took them away from her, so she started daydreaming instead. After she got married, she wrote some of her naughtier daydreams down and sent them to Playgirl magazine. Two of them got published. She kept daydreaming and writing stories until her dirty stories turned into trashy books. She lives in Colorado, but she’ll always be a loyal Wisconsin Cheesehead. When she’s not lusting after her next bad boy hero, she looks for inspiration in sci-fi and action movies, football players, bloodsucking lawyers, muscle cars, and kick-butt chicks.
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2 Responses to D/s: Who’s in charge?

  1. I adore Joseph and Gemini’s blogs! They are really incredible people!

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